A Problem Relationship (Can it be fix?)

So I'm sitting here on this beautiful Sabbath reading this rather unique story. Dedra and Kevin have been dating for about 4 years. During the course of their relationship, they have had many ups and downs. Dedra's main problems with Kevin is that he doesn't know when to be serious (whatever that means), and doesn't communicate well, but over all he's a great man. Hey you can't have a perfect relationship or man right? But what stood out to me was that the story gave numerous of examples of how Dedra was doing things during the relationship. Things such as sending emails and receiving emails from her ex boyfriend at some point, considering staying by male friends homes, sending photos of her self to guy friends, temper tantrums (only with Kevin), and a few other little things that I didn't care to read about all during her relationship with Kevin. Kevin has a problem with her fussing over everything, not letting anything go, and explains that every time he has confronted Dedra with these issues, she defends herself and attempts to justify each situation with a probable cause according to her. So what does this tell Kevin? If she thinks its ok, why cant he do it? How come she gets to have a fun filled life doing whatever she wants and he must filter what he does? Which bring about another problem that Dedra has with Kevin. "Why must you do it back to me, why can't you be the bigger person? Why must you be so childish and render bad for bad?" According to the story she does something and he does it back each time because she doesn't admit her faults. So I thought to myself, it sounds as if she wants a free ride in their relationship. Why do I say that? Because according to the story, for 4 years she's been asking him to be the bigger person. Is she ever going to try to be the bigger person or is she going to expect him to be all the time? Kevin's problem with that is that she treats him horrible after he does it back because she feels hurt, and she explains that her anger is because of him doing it back and being childish by doing so, which may have little to do with it, and alot with because she didn't like what he did back to her. All in all it caused an ongoing cycle of arguing, silent treatments, and threats.
I'm blogging about this because I know they were not the only ones who go through these type of issues. So I would like to comment on it. To all the Dedra's in the world, you must first make an immediate life change fast. Why do I say that? Follow me. In relationships, people have problems as a result of their other half, and in most cases the problem can be solved by just moving on to another person. In your case, it seems to me as if you do not think before you act or do things and it doesn't hit home that what you did might have been uncall for or hurtful until its done back to you. This tells me that you will have problems with Kevin, or Jason, or Steve or whoever because you have an internal problem with your self. Also you can not fuss over everything because you are not going to fix everything. If you talk with anyone who has been married for years (15+), they will tell you that there are things in their spouses that they just let go because they must accept somethings that make them who they are even if it gets on their last nerves. Ask anyone who falls in that category! One last simple solution, if you do not like what Kevin does back to you, then ask for forgiveness of all the things you've done in the past to him that you tried to justify and think before you act in the future.
For all the Kevin's out there, women are more emotional and sensitive than we are. It would not be wise for you to fight fire with fire. If you really love her, continue to tell her when she wrongs you but in a loving way. Love always prevails. Try to do less things that will cause her to fuss so much. You and I both know you do alot of dumb things that can avoid small arguments.
To Both Kevin and Dedra, if you both want to make it work, I would advise that you both start afresh. Wipe the slate clean. Forget about all the hurtful things of the past. Forget about all the inconsideration's of the past. Express love at all times.
And remember "If you would not like it done to you then don't do it to anyone else." May God bless you all. If You have a comment feel free to post whether its on the story as a whole, on Kevin, or Dedra.

What Type of Christian should we be?

I was recently educated by the Word of God that many of us who profess to be Christians are information type Christian. We rely so much on wanting to be informed and filled with information so that we can either have the knowledge for our own personal use, or to reprimand others. The pharisees in the Bible days had all the information in the world about spiritual things, yet they were not the ones that were closest to Jesus. Why? Wanting to be educated about God is not at all a bad thing, but information will not get the attention of Jesus. We must exchange our urge for wanting to be informed to wanting to be transformed by God. You see, by wanting God to transform our lives, we are telling Him that we do not care about all of the minute things that can keep us away from being next to Him at all times. The story of blind Bartimaeus explains it best in Mark Chapter 10. The crowd and the disciples were following Christ to be informed, but Mr. Bartimaeus was on the side of the road referring to Jesus as "the son David"(verse 47) demonstrating that He is already informed of the Christ but showing that it does not stop there. He continues by asking Jesus to have mercy on him (verse 48). He wants to be transform by Jesus, because he realizes that that information will only educate you, but transformation will save you.

Is there a problem with black male athletes and the law?

Lets start with Micheal Vick:
NFL star Michael Vick was indicted by a federal grand jury on charges of sponsoring a dogfighting operation so grisly the losers either died in the pit or sometimes were electrocuted, drowned, hanged or shot. The Atlanta Falcons quarterback and three others were charged with competitive dogfighting, procuring and training pit bulls for fighting and conducting the enterprise across state lines.
The operation was named "Bad Newz Kennels," according to the indictment, and the dogs were housed, trained and fought at a property owned by Vick in Surry County, Va.
Vick and the other three defendants will appear in district court in Richmond on July 26. Vick, Purnell Peace, Tony Taylor and Quanis Phillips will appear before a magistrate judge, Dennis Dohnal, at 3:30 p.m. for bond and at 4 p.m. in front of Judge Henry Hudson for arraignment. The 19-page federal indictment, filed in the U.S. District Court for the Eastern District of Virginia, alleges the 27-year-old Vick and his co-defendants began the dogfighting operation in early 2001, the former Virginia Tech star's rookie year with the Falcons.

The indictment states that dogs fought to the death -- or close to it.

Plexico Burress:
Burress and Pierce were at the Latin Quarter nightclub in Manhattan in late November 2008 when a gun that was tucked into Burress' waistband slipped down his leg and fired, shooting him in the right thigh. The bullet narrowly missed a nightclub security guard who was standing inches away, prosecutors said. It lodged in the floor and was recovered by a bartender. The gun was not licensed in New York or in New Jersey, where Burress lived. His license to carry a concealed weapon in the state of Florida had expired in May 2008. Prosecutors said Pierce drove Burress to a hospital, then took the gun to his own home in New Jersey. It was later delivered to Burress' home. Pierce, who also testified before the grand jury, was not charged. He
was sentenced to two years in prison Tuesday for violating New York's stringent gun laws and was immediately taken into custody following his hearing. He is expected to serve about 20 months with credit for good behavior -- meaning he could be released as early as the spring of 2011 -- followed by two years of probation.

Tiger Woods
............We'll save that for another subject

Finally, Gilbert Arenas:

Let me start off by saying that Gil is a great guy and I respect him to death. I'm apart of the few people who feel that most people do not understand him. He's a very funny guy and his basketball skills are exceptional.

NBA all-star Gilbert Arenas and his Washing ton Wizards teammate Javaris Crittenton drew guns on each other in the team's locker room during a Christmas Eve dispute over a gambling debt. It was the three- time all-star Arenas, 27, who went for his gun first, drawing on the 22-year-old Crit tenton, who quickly brandished a firearm as well. It was not clear whether other teammates saw the shocking standoff, which happened on a practice day. The duel in DC -- unprecedented in sports history -- was sparked when Critten ton became enraged at the vet eran guard for refusing to make good on a gambling debt, a source said. "I'm not your punk!" Crittenton shouted at Arenas, according to a league source close to the Wizards. That prompted Arenas to draw on Crittenton, who then also grabbed for a gun, league security sources said
The Wizards announced on Christmas Day that Arenas had admitted to bringing guns to the locker room and had turned them over to team security. No ammunition was handed over.

I'm not implying that only black athletes committ crime but it seems that the media only crucify them and no one else which would make it seem as if only black athletes do wrong. My thoughts and views may seem a a little all over the place but hey, its my blog and I can sound mix up if I want to. First of all I think we must realize that a major percent of black athletes did not grow up on "happy street", which would be down the street from "both my parents went to college," which is around the corner from "I can leave my front door unlock." Alot of them grew up in ruff neighbor hoods with crime, where their single parent had to work 3 jobs to make ends meet, if they even had parents who cared. We feel sometimes that we can give them millions of dollars and expect them to be perfect. Some of these guys without their money and skills would have ended up another black male statistic; dead or in jail. We should give them chances and also teach them how to behave instead of tearing their lives apart as soon as they do something wrong. I have to go to class but I'll finish this later.

Persistance is the key for all the students whose major is business

He was born on August 30, 1930 to his father Howard, a stockbroker-turned-Congressman. He was the only boy and the second of three children, displaying an amazing aptitude for both money and business at a very early age. Acquaintances recount his uncanny ability to calculate columns of numbers off the top of his head. At only six years old, He purchased 6-packs of Coca Cola from his grandfather's grocery store for twenty five cents and resold each of the bottles for a nickel, pocketing a five cent profit. He was finally persuaded to apply to Harvard Business School, which, in the worst admission decision in history, rejected him as "too young". I’m speaking of a CEO who relentlessly pounded on the door of GEICO until a janitor came to open it for him. After continual persistence, he eventually acquired the entire GEICO Company through his corporation, Berkshire Hathaway.
Warren Buffet bought numerous of stock in things that we use everyday such as Johnson and Johnson, GEICO, Wells Fargo, and even coco-cola. Within a few months of investing in coco-cola Berkshire owned 7% of the company, or $1.02 billion dollars worth of the stock. Within three years, Buffet’s Coca-Cola stock would be worth more than the entire value of Berkshire when he made the investment. It was at the age of 32 when Buffett became a millionaire because Buffet’s partnerships, in January 1962, had in excess of $7,178,500 of which over $1,025,000 belonged to Buffett. He merged all partnerships into one partnership. Buffett discovered a textile manufacturing firm, Berkshire Hathaway. Buffett's partnerships began purchasing shares at $7.60 per share. Two years ago Mr. Buffet net worth reached an 11 digit 62 Billion dollars. We as business majors can look at this business man by degree and profession and see that indeed we are not wasting our time in this major called business because if Warren Buffet can do it so can we.

Someone always has it worst than you (Be Thankful)

She was born on a small island somewhere in the Caribbean, close to South America. Sandra Mello is 72 years of age and has experienced things in her life that would cause anyone to wonder how she made it through. Her family was very poor. They had a hut as a home which had holes in it. Her mother was a stay at home mother who took care of their 8 children and cooked whatever their money could afford to buy. Her father was a farmer who was paid low wages due to his lack of education by his boss. Sandra father had a friend by the name of Carlos dean. Carlos came by the house every so often to play a game called dominoes, and became a family close friend because of his frequent visits and wonderful friendship. Carlos became very familiar with Sandra’s schedule and one day he decided to come over when she was home alone. She had just celebrated her 11th birthday and was very anxious to tell anyone about her day at school. Carlos listened very attentively to her story but he had other motives. He began to touch Sandra consistently without her permission and before she knew it, she had been sexually abused. This happened every week because she was afraid of what Carlos would do to her. She began to think that she was a horrific person because that what she was told and her self esteem decreased drastically.

When Sandra turned sixteen, she found out that she was pregnant by a guy from her school who was fifteen. Neither of them had money to take care of a child so Sandra decided to do anything to get rid of it. She began to drink alcohol and ended up killing her child. Soon after, she became pregnant again and this time her parents found out. She was then forced to leave the home. Sandra had no place to go so her and her child lived on the street. Because of her obvious beauty, a guy approached her and immediately began to use her to sell her body for sexual favors. As time progress, Sandra started to have more and more children. By the time she was 35, she had already had 7 kids, all under the age of 17.

Sandra began to get her life in order and found a nice paying job but just when things started to become better, it only became worst. She had a one night stand with a guy there in Trinidad and he had given her AIDS. She had to get professional treatment, so she took her two youngest children and left for America. She knew a doctor who began to assist in her illness, but Sandra was not educated enough to know that she must be in America legally. She was soon deported and was separated from her children. After 6 years she was able to save up enough money to go back to America to see her children and to get better care of her illness.

Sandra returned back to America but her health was becoming over whelming and unbearable. To make matters worst, she was not able to find her children. As she was sitting home one day she had received a terrifying phone call. One of her kids by the name of Dorothy was raped and killed. That really crushed Sandra and cause major depression. Sandra was so fed up with her life at that point that she decided to end her life. She cut her wrist but a friend of hers found her soon after and rushed her to the hospital. Sandra spent weeks, which turned into months, in the hospital because they were not sure if she was physically able to take care of herself. Sandra had a lot of time to review her life and think about all of the decisions and choices she had made that caused her to be in the position that she in.

After spending four months in the hospital, she was released to bed rest. Sandra knew that she did not have much time to live so she began to search for help. In her search, she found a local church that immediately embraced her and loved her for who she was. A lady in the church introduced her to God and told her that he is love and once she gets to know Him, he will direct her in the right path. Two days later she died.

Be thankful for what you have because someone out there has it worst than you.